Jealous mom doesnt want son to succeed, should gf be mad?
September 8th, 2010 | 
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My bf is applying to grad school, his GRE is only 3 weeks away and he has only been studying 1 week. Its sort of like the SAT, but he needs really good score to get into the highly competitive school.
We worked really hard to put his recommendation letters together and now all we need is a good GRE school.
His mom not only do not support him going to grad school, but even want to take him along on her regular roads trip..its not like its a once in a life time trip. She goes on it all the time.
I dont know why she cant let her son just take a few days to study when his exam is so near.
She wants her son to be a mommy’s boy always because she is divorced and lonely and empty nesting.
The thing with my bf is that is never has his own mind…when I am not right there to guide him…he always gives in to what his mom say because he cant say no..
what should I do?? i dont want him to not get except into grad school and have to wait 1 more year for admission..
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it really sound like your boyfriend need to stand up to his mother and
let her know how he feel about what going on. he the only one that
can step up and be a man…
Your boyfriend will have to stand up to mommy some day so it might as well be now.
If he can’t do it there is NOTHING you can do. Unless you want a little puppet on a string which doesn’t sound attractive.
This is where you watch closely because this will say a lot about him.
What can you do except show support for his success, let him know his education takes presidency over a road trip.
Sounds like he doesn’t know how to be a MAN, that is why his MOMMY is controlling him. Isn’t he old enough to have a mind of his own? He need to CUT the strings so his controlling mom doesn’t keep playing him as a puppet. Maybe he is a caring guy and loves his mom, but that is the WRONG way of caring about people because he is just enabling her controlling behaviors!!! She is selfish mother who doesn’t seem to care about his future and education!!
I hope you can talk him out of this momma’s boy syndrome. If he keeps doing this. Do you really want to be with someone who is not going to put you first???
Peachy your grammer is poor. I am not hating on you but you should proof read before submitting. Your man seems like a nice guy who is driven. So keep doing what you have been doing and that is guiding him and supporting him. You are the other hand that guides and motivates him. You have a great deal of influence over him also and it does not seem to bother his mother. That is his mom and will always be. She has been there for him all of his life my dear. She loves him and still, and always will, see him as her baby. It is good they are close but bad that he cannot tell her no. But it seems like he does not tell you no either. That is no reason to dislike his mother it is as simple as him telling her thanks momma but no thanks. I really have to study to get into this program and I would like for you to support me on this. Smile give her a kiss on the cheek and move on. You might not understand the bond they have and most gf and wives do not. He probably kept her strong all of these years. It is sometimes much more than what is on the outside my dear. Just keep supporting him.
1) BE Supportive of Him
2) Dont get in between both of them, that will instantly make you the enemy. She already have issues letting him go.
3) Be Even MORE Supportive of him. Do little sweet things to relax and encourage him. Help him study if needed.
Good Luck
just show him that your are worried about his future and that he should explain to his mother how critical this time is and he need to study and the road trip or whatever can wait… other then that you can’t do much..
my GF vs my mother you don’t want to put him in that place..
You sound like a great GF.
Your BF may need positive reenforcement, if his self esteem has been exhausted by his environment.
If you can paint a picture of a future for the 2 of you that will result from passing the exam, I’m sure his mind will fill in the gaps and find a solution. (Some people are inspired by what they will avoid, and some, by what they will have).
It should be good for his mom to know what he is working towards, and that you are helping him, but we can’t determine what other people understand, or whether it will be in line with her sons goals.
At least if he has self esteem and a goal with rewards, he will be motivated to sort his situation out.
I hope you both do well.